Updated: Jan 11
"...while this is a time for celebration and enjoying each other's company, let's be real AF, this time of year can be challenging".
While holiday season is a time for celebration and enjoying each other's company, this time of year can be challenging and triggering because of family interactions or painful family events. The time of year we prepare for the drunk relative, parents not knowing what to say out of their mouths, gossiping relatives, etc. For some people, this time of year can be much deeper and painful. As women of color, many of us may belong to cultures where it was instilled in us "not to air the dirty laundry" or discuss "family secrets". The effects of this phenomenon can impact us greatly and leave lasting impressions on generations to come. We have began to internalize emotions, become codependent on others, passive aggressive or aggressive, and the list goes on! For some of us, maybe we have taken on the role of peacekeeper or mediator which also has its effects.
I encourage you to pay attention to how you feel during the holiday season and even after. I challenge you to set boundaries for own health and growth. You are respected for any decision you choose to make even if it's a difficult one for the sake of your own happiness and self-liberation. We've all been there, myself included. It never gets easier, but more tolerable. YOU GOT THIS!